Hello dears,
though La vie en rose is my “pink zone” and I cherish filling it with cute bits and lovely ramblings, today I feel like mulling over some less poetic aspects of everyday life.
Don’t worry, there will be a pink happy ending.
Further to a few annoying encounters I have experienced over the past week, I have concluded that there are two kinds of mean people:
– those who unload their frustration and cultivate their self esteem by belittling others with unpleasant remarks
– those whose adulating manners hide the purpose of luring you into buying something/doing something for them, thus insulting your intelligence
Though I try to live by Don Miguel Ruiz’s wise teaching “Don’t take anything personally”, I’m yet far from rising to the ideal of Epicurean ataraxia.
This is how my feelings evolve when I realise I’m being bullied:
– I’m taken aback by the outrageous behaviour
– I get angry at myself for not being able to respond promptly and conveniently
– I comfort myself by devising a clever reply for the next time it happens
BUT IN THE END I ask myself:
Would I rather be that kind of person who takes pleasure in imposing her superiority on others?
No thank you!
I will be loyal to my true self and my victory will be the love I get from those who share my same ideals of kindness-dispensing-love-spreading-rosebud-carpeting-bow-cuteness-sharing-pink-topping- Ness.
But tell me pretties, how do YOU cope with meanness?
I’d love to know your insight, as I’m sure your wise selves will come up with some useful tips.
Big hugs smiles and kisses to you
Love, Coco
i've come across mean, jealous, vindictive and liars. hahaha the only thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. i try to surround myself with nice people (which is far and few between). deception is bad, and some people are really good at it. when i first started blogging, i thought a couple were really nice, to only find out they just wanted me to comment on their blog and that
I ignore people who make me feel unhappy – life is too short to spend any second of it on those guys.<br />x
Nice inspiration photos. Indeed dear, don't be those types of people. You're precious. :)<br /><br />~Chai<br />http://chenmeicai.blogspot.com<br />http://lookbook.nu/chenmeicai<br />http://www.bloglovin.com/en/blog/2957855<br />http://www.nuffnangx.com/user/hJK222B
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Sono d'accordo con te, bellissimo post e riflessione cara, un bacio e buonanotte:*
The happiness is the real jewel <br />Thanks<br /><br />Lovely pics<br /><br />Kiss and love<br />A
With time I have learned to accept that not everybody will like me, and that's okay. There will always be mean peoples and bullies, but in the end, what matters is real friends and family and love you for who you are. Those are the peoples that you are going to grow old with and who are going to support you no matter what. I say kill them with kindness ! Not easy but i found it very effective
Gorgeous quotes x
I love the quotes, they are great reminders. There will always be mean people, which is too bad. Don't let them bring you down! :)<br /><br />xo, Yi-chia<br /><a href="http://alwaysmaylee.com" rel="nofollow">Always Maylee</a>
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I probably react the same way as you, but then I just try to remember to be the bigger person and then I'm winning 😉 great post lovely xx<br /><br />loverandshoes.blogspot.com
Lovely blog <3<br />Check out mine sometime if you want :))<br />xx<br /><br />http://aimerose.blogspot.com
Like others who have commented here I try to void people that I know are mean, nasty bullies. And when someone does slip by and treat me wrong, I rise above and keep going, because I know that I have a group of close friends that I can complain too later and they have my back.<br /><br />Jessica @ <a href="%E2%80%9Dsunnydaystarrynight.blogspot.com%E2%80%9D?" rel="nofollow"> Sunny Days and Starry
Not everyone is kind so it is best to avoid those people! Kill them with kindness! <br /><br />Rebecca<br />www.winnipegstyle.ca
You are definitely the bigger person for keeping your cool and rising above mean people. They will remain mean and you will remain awesome!<br /><br />xoxo,<br /><a href="http://www.chicncheapliving.com" rel="nofollow">Chic 'n Cheap Living</a>
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Sometimes when someone is mean to me, I am nice to them in return and then they feel guilty. But other times I get really upset and very lost, when someone is mean to me for no reason. It really hurts. Unfortunately there are plenty of mean people in the world, but we shouldn't forget that there are lots of kind people around too!<br /><br />HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DEAR! BE HAPPY and KEEP WRITING
Tantissimi auguri di buon compleanno cara!!! Trascorri una bella giornata!! Ti auguro tanto successo!! Un bacio!!!:****
The only sure way I have found is to not let them get to you. If you carry on being happy, ignoring their comments or just be really friendly and nice back to them, they know they are not succeeding and you are not feeding their bully needs. It works, I used to get really affected by bullies a long time ago and used to react to it, which made things worse. Now it washes over my head and it's
Nice post ^^
Augurissimi!!!<br />un bacione,Elle<br /><br />http://redischic.blogspot.it/
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Lovely post with beautiful words. If you allow me, I would like to say one thing about your fonts, I have difficulty to read the text. It would be easier and quicker to read if it is a bigger font and-or not hand writing style( I like the style but it makes it more difficult to read ). I hope you don't mind me writing these, it is just my feedback : ) Have a lovely Sunday : )
Beautiful post and lovely cute pics. I love the quotes!!!<br />Best Regards<br />Miss Margaret Cruzemark<br />http://margaretcruzemark.blogspot.com/<br />
Coco, I wish I had something brilliant to add, but I don't. I just get so weary of people who are mean–spreads so much negativity and such a waste of energy! Thanks for sharing this and go you for knowing your truth of being kind and sticking to it!
First you have to remember that not everyone is going to like what you like. Still it is harsh to read blunt and mean comments. I try to focus on the positive comments because there are often more of them! Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog – I really appreciate all the comments!!